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Islamic Spirituality & Tazkiyah

Not Everything That Shines Is Gold: Finding Contentment in an Age of Social Media Comparison

By: Siti Muinah • Oct 16, 2026 • 4 min read

In an era dominated by digital connectivity, individuals around the globe find themselves constantly exposed to the curated highlights of other people’s lives. From announcements of new employment opportunities and expanding families to exotic vacations and luxury purchases, social media platforms have transformed into digital showcases for personal triumphs and milestones. While these digital spaces offer remarkable value in keeping families and friends connected across distances, they have concurrently introduced a pervasive psychological challenge: the creeping sense of inadequacy and dissatisfaction with one’s own daily reality.

Addressing this modern phenomenon requires a careful examination of how modern habits influence personal well-being. Experts and community speakers, such as Sister Lobna Mulla in her insightful lecture at the MAS convention titled "Not Everything that Shines is Gold," emphasize that the solution does not lie in abandoning social media altogether. Rather, the challenge is learning how to navigate these digital environments without falling into the trap of constant comparison, while simultaneously cultivating a deep sense of gratitude and contentment for the blessings one already possesses.

The psychological toll of endless scrolling is well-documented. Many individuals report stepping away from their phones, tablets, and computers feeling as though they are not sufficiently attractive, intelligent, successful, or fortunate compared to the peers they observe online. This persistent exposure to idealized lifestyles often creates a distorted perception of reality, overshadowing the quiet, everyday blessings that populate an ordinary life. Questioning one’s worth based on digital highlights fails to honor the genuine abundance of goodness that is bestowed upon individuals on a daily basis.

Finding Contentment in Social Media Life

Trusting in Allah’s Provisions

To counter the feelings of discontentment fostered by modern media consumption, timeless spiritual traditions offer grounded and actionable guidance. Islamic teachings found within the Quran and the traditions of Prophet Muhammad provide a clear framework for achieving emotional and spiritual peace. Central to this perspective is the guidance of Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, who advised believers to look toward those who have been given less in material terms, rather than those who possess more.

This prophetic counsel directs attention away from the material benchmarks frequently highlighted on digital platforms and toward the lived realities of individuals facing significant trials. Engaging with the wider community, particularly by spending time with those enduring hardships such as illness or poverty, fundamentally shifts an individual’s perspective. Visiting someone who is sick or facing profound difficulties serves as a powerful reminder of the value of health, stability, and security—blessings that are frequently taken for granted during daily routines.

By actively participating in community care and stepping outside the insular bubble of digital feeds, individuals reconnect with the reality of Ar-Razzaq, the All-Provider. Trusting in the provisions decreed by the Creator allows believers to anchor their self-worth in faith rather than societal metrics of success. Spending time with the less fortunate naturally fosters an environment where gratitude flourishes, enabling people to truly appreciate, value, and give thanks for every aspect of their lives.

Finding Contentment in Social Media Life

Sister Lobna Mulla’s reflections, captured in her widely shared presentation, remind audiences that external appearances and digital displays rarely tell the complete story of an individual’s life. The underlying message encourages a deliberate shift in focus—away from the superficial glow of online profiles and toward genuine human connection, empathy, and spiritual mindfulness.

As communities continue to navigate the complexities of digital communication, the timeless wisdom encouraging moderation, reflection, and gratitude remains an essential tool for emotional resilience. Those interested in exploring these themes further can find related discussions, lectures, and community resources through platforms such as About Islam and the official channels of the MASICNA Convention, where educators continue to address the intersection of modern lifestyle challenges and traditional spiritual values.

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